Love in Exile by Shon Faye Book Review

Released: 6th February 2025

Genre: Non-Fiction, Society, Politics

As a leading voice for transgender rights in the UK, Shon Faye has spoken out for her community with a series of podcasts and books. Her latest, Love In Exile, is a compact but highly effective commentary on modern romance and gender norms.

The book is split into named chapters and each one features a deep dive in various topics. Feminism, patriarchy, societal expectations and the effect of parental environments on our upbringings are all included. All of these talking points are connected together in a decidedly left-wing viewpoint. Faye expresses deep frustrations over the culture wars that divide the population and the continued animosity towards trans people. This is presented with a series of interactions as Shon navigated the landscape of dating apps while questioning what she was looking for in a romantic partner.

These discussions are interspersed with her memories; a brief stint in a Catholic choir, studies at the University of Oxford and coming out as a trans woman in adulthood. Even as a child, she felt distant from her peers. It’s a deeply honest account that blends seamlessly with the more intellectual sections. One of the most interesting elements for me was her view on faith. The author believes in her own way, disconnected from those who view homosexuals and other sexual orientations as sinful.

Shon is very forthright with her perspective on politics and current affairs, but she also speaks so openly about her experiences in love and relationships to create a level-headed tone. The author’s self-reflective approach highlights that she doesn’t have all the answers, nor does she expect her book to be treated as gospel. As a result, it’s very thought-provoking across all eight chapters; some may find her viewpoints questionable but keeping an open mind is important when reading the book.

Recommended?

YES: Shon Faye combines the personal and political to create a fascinating read. She draws from many avenues of knowledge to create some compelling arguments and explanations of relationships in modern society. More than anything else, she pulls the reader into her perspective, encouraging them to understand her story and why she advocates for social change.